Have you ever wanted to change something but you couldn’t? Did you start changing but soon fell back to your old behaviour? Are your New Year’s resolutions mostly just good wishes?
If changes don‘t happen as you desire, then it could be a fixed mindset that holds you back. The good news is the attitude is changeable from fixed to growth. The bad news is that it takes a long time and a lot of practice.
You can do this with various methods and techniques. I focus on analyzing the origins and releasing blocks in three steps:
1. Fixed Mindset = Blocked Mindset
The first thing is realizing that fixed mindsets are always connected with blocks or some stuckness in your life.
David R. Hawkings found out in his book ‘Letting Go: The Pathway to Surrender’ that a fixed mindset shows up with feelings of negativity, depression and thoughts like „I cannot do this“ or „I think I will fail“.
Such thoughts show a generally negative view towards the future and fear of going ahead. To draw negative pictures about the future are the results of blocks and negative beliefs sets.
Negative belief sets are gifts from our past, either of other people or ourselves. For example, my strongest external belief was that I have to care what other people think of me or what I do (thanks, grams 😉 ).
Generally spoken, a fixed mindset is a learned behaviour that comes from the past.
It doesn’t help to fight against those belief sets. Figuring them out and embracing them as part of yourself is a way better method. Then releasing the negativity is possible, and change can happen.
2. Explore the origins of the blocks
To overcome mindset blocks, you should go back to the roots and explore the first occurrence of the specific block. Maybe it is a belief from your childhood that doesn‘t serve you anymore but prevents you from making progress. It also could be a trauma from your past that disturbs your life and energy.
I often use this exercise for diving into the roots of problems or thoughts:
To get to the origins, ask yourself the question, why is this thought there? Then take the answer and ask again why this thought is in your mind. Repeat the questions at least five times. This technique helps you exploring the true origins of your mindset blocks.
It isn‘t a diagnostic process, but it helps.
3. Change a fixed mindset into a growth mindset
After finding out the roots of your blocks, the last step is to change your Mindset and set it up for a progressive and future-oriented one. Therefore, you have to create positive habits and specific goals. Building positive thought patterns helps you to convert your negative belief system into a positive one. The only thing you need is a lot of consistent practice. The best choice is to practice daily, which means whenever you mention a negative thought or belief, you reframe it into its positive counterpart. For example: „I cannot do this.“ could be changed into „I cannot do it, but I will try and give my best“.
Reframing is just one option for change, and it is a powerful technique because it is easy to access anytime.
Another method is to look positive at the outcome by imagining the best possible output. Concentrating on the positive results is way more effective than focusing on the potential roadblocks. It helps you establish an optimistic view of the world, and you are more likely to give your projects at least a try.
Give it a Try and don’t give up!
Remind yourself: the first try doesn‘t have to be perfect. It‘s already a win that you tried!
Regarding changes, it is so crucial that you don‘t give up. Be consistent even if it seems impossible or too hard to get the negativity out of your head. It is possible, and you can do it! Mindset isn‘t a character issue – it is a learned behaviour, and you can unlearn or convert it as you learned it.
It takes you longer to change a well-trained behaviour than a recently learned one, which means that it takes you longer to unlearn it if you had a fixed mindset for a long time. So again, be patient, consistent, and don‘t give up – it will pay off!
A good resource for further reading on mindset types is David Kahnemann‘s book.
Read more about Mindset here.
For more information on personal growth, check out this great community by my mentor Brendon Burchard (affiliate link).