Speaking or presenting yourself in public can be a scary and overwhelming experience. Most of us feel stage fright or something like that. Those feelings are usually results of limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, and lack of confidence. This article focuses on how to speak confidently in public settings.
Previously, I also was very nervous and excited before doing presentations or giving speeches in front of a large audience. With my mentor‘s help, I convinced the introverted part of mine to fall in love with speaking and public appearance. I developed a framework for speaking and creating positive thought patterns. So, I could leave behind all the limiting beliefs that stopped me from speaking authentically. Now, I am confident with speaking, discussing in student groups, and I also have fun presenting in various situations. I believe that anyone can learn to speak and present confidently with creating easy to learn habits. So I share some of my tools for increasing your confidence.
3 Proven Tools for Speaking Confidently
1. Discover Your Negative Patterns
The first step is doing some analysis to evaluate your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. You can write down a list if you are an analytical person or create mindmaps or vision boards if you are a more creative learner. This helps you to visualize what is holding you back regarding to speaking. Reflect on how your negative beliefs formed behavioural patterns and in which amount that prevent you from being truly yourself and speaking confidently. Examples of negative thoughts could be: ‚Nobody will be interested in my thoughts’ or ‚They won’t like me ‘. Such ideas negatively influence your performance, and you should be aware that all of them don’t have to be necessarily true. It’s just your mind that believes that they are true.
2. Use Positive Affirmations and speak confidently
After you figured out your limiting beliefs, you have to convince your mind that these negative thoughts aren’t true anymore. I love to use positive affirmations for this mission. But be aware that implementing affirmations takes some practice to convince your brain of the truth of positive thoughts. This is because brains are very smart and tend to criticise us. There are a lot of sample affirmations you can use, but personally, I prefer creating personal affirmations.
It is more likely that your personal affirmations will fit better to your own life and experiences if you create them by yourself. For example, if your negative thought is ‚They won’t like me ‘, you could use an affirmation like ‚I am a likeable person’. Use affirmation that feel right for you. Therefore, affirmations which resonate with you work best. To get long-term results, you repeat the affirmation in the morning and in the evening. On the other hand, emergencies work a bit different. If you are insecure or nervous just before your presentation, other tools work better in an emergency.
3. Change Your Habits to speak confidently
The first two steps help you to transform your negative habits into a positive mindset. Creating new habits requires some time and effort, and you can do that with a clear vision of your success in mind. Examples for cheerful habits and patterns are, e.g. stopping the wheel of overthinking, cooling down the speed of thoughts, and turning overwhelm into energy that benefits your performance. Common pitfalls are giving up and lack of preparation.
To prevent that you quit building your positive habits or get bored by them and stop practising, motivation is a critical factor. Then, during habit creation, you will face some hard times until the positive patterns are established well. New habits have to be well-founded because then they are more likely to turn into a permanent behaviour. With a bit of focus and endurance, it is possible, you’ll see! Don’t forget to visualise your goals of speaking and presenting confidently. Then, recognise how excellent your speeches will be. People will love them, and they will cheer and support you.
Although you certainly will rock the stage, you should also have a second plan for struggles and problems while speaking. This is important just in case. With good preparation, you can be more flexible and gain more security with every situation you managed.
Those three tips are the beginning of your road to becoming a confident speaker or presenter. If you want to transform your resolutions into lasting habits. Additionally, if you need some help with implementing affirmations into your daily routine, check out this article.
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