finding yourself into a thinking trap
Struggles with thinking traps
I recently found out that I wrote my blog to optimize it for search engines and serve the machines. Then I realized that this felt like a trap because I don’t care if I attract Google or other SEO stuff. So, I thought about how to get out of thinking traps. I want to write to you, my dear reader, and for me. Primarily, I write to you because I want to share my experience and knowledge with you and entertain you. Secondary, I write for myself because I love writing for as long as I can remember.
I tried to serve the search engines and other fancy stuff that they recommend. It works fine, and I have friendly analytics to report. But that’s not why I wanted to write. I don’t write for a search engine or analytic tools. I write for human readers who want to be entertained or search for an answer.
For all of you who belong to the second type of reader, I have to apologize as I mostly haven’t got THE answers, but I try to do my best.
Limits and thinking traps come from the inside
Often we think that society or rules or other external stuff are limiting us. Such limiting may be true in some cases, but it hasn’t to be, necessarily. At least this is worth a second thought. In a great audiobook by Richard D. Foster, it said that rules provide us with security. I think this is a good point which we often forget regarding rules within society. A good point if you need protection, but not everybody needs the same amount of security. Others, like me, prefer liberty. Therefore, rules don’t limit me but function like guidance. Not all regulations or words from the outside are meant to have a positive impact on you. Like criticism from your family or friends, some thoughts aren’t bad themselves, but they affect your insecurity.
It seems that most of the limits that you are confronted with come from yourself.
If you fall into the traps of negative thoughts or limiting beliefs, I tell you my strategy to get out of them.
Get out of Thinking traps
If you find yourself trapped as I did, I recommend getting out of the trap sooner rather than later. You can do it; you need some time and have to be brave enough to give it a try. Getting out of the cage isn’t as hard as you think, and I show you some techniques, so try this at home.
1. Write things down
Visualize your thoughts by writing them down in a journal or a file, which feels best. The writing process helps you to sort your ideas and bring them into reality. Then you can work on them and change them if you want to. Keep your notes personal, and don’t share them with others at the beginning.
Exercise: write down ten things that hold you back at the moment.
2. Find ways to get what you want
You don’t have to be wealthy to reach your goals or realize your dreams! Be creative in finding ways to get them. Sometimes it is a compromise or a turnaround that helps you achieve a bit of your dream. With this behaviour, you convince yourself to believe that it is possible to reach your dreams even if they seem weird to other people.
And, a small piece of cake is better than nothing, right?! You see, I’m part of the „glass is half full“ community.
3. stay away from thinking traps – Protect your dreams
Sometimes, our environment challenges our dreams and goals. For example, your best friend tells you that your vision of doing a beauty vlog is a bad idea because she thinks you couldn’t be successful with it. Then you have to be careful not to get trapped again. I suggest being a bit stubborn, and give it a try if you want to do the vlog! Don’t give a shit about what others think about your project. Be brave and at least give it a try. You have nothing to lose – only your dreams. And I bet this is much worse than telling your friend that you think it is nice that she cares but that you’re going to get your dream.
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