in relationship with toxic people
Did you ever had a relationship that was not good for you? I bet you had. I definitely experienced some of such relationships with toxic people like friends or partners!
Sometimes you get tired or you cannot do the things that you want to do due to such relationships. Toxic people manipulate you and it doesn’t matter if they do consciously or unconsciously. They build a kind of prison around you and you feel trapped. Sometimes you cannot say if they want something or if you want it. You lose yourself on the long run. So, the best is to stay away from toxic relationships. Easier said than done, isn’t it!?
Real world vs. virtual world
Theoretically, there should be a huge difference in dealing with toxic relationships in reality and those in the virtual world. You can just turn off your devices and the toxic people seem to be gone. Theoretically. If you love staying on social media networks like me, then switching off is not always easy. A possible solution is to turn off alerts and to mute haters and trolls consequently. Then social networks are fun.
Privacy vs. work
It doesn’t matter if you meet toxic people at work or in your private life. They can be everywhere. I think even work itself, the space or the tasks can have toxic influence on you. How should you deal with toxicity? I have experienced it in several forms and places and give you my 5-step-strategy to get rid of toxins in your daily life just as you would do a detox treatment for cleansing your body from time to time. I love to detox my body twice a year with a special detox treatment and feel great.
5 Strategies To deal with toxic people
1. Evaluate your toxic relationships
The first step is to re-evaluate the relationships you’re in. There are two major kinds of relationships I want to mention. Personal relationships and working relationships. I think both are to distinct and the personal ones are harder to evaluate because they are connected with a lot of emotions. Nevertheless, try to look at your relationship from a meta position and think about if you are happy with it or if it makes you suffer. If it does the latter, then you should quit. Even if it’s hard. Quit.
Working relationships are not always easy to cancel but you can at least reduce them to a professional minimum. Your colleagues don’t necessarily have to be your closest friends. They can be, if they are good for you.
2. Stay away from toxic people
After you figured out some people who aren’t good for you, you want to stay away from them. No excuses – just reduce contact. In these pandemic times this should be easy for you ;). There’s no alternative. Stay away and you’ll feel better after some days. I promise.
3. Build your boundaries
To keep your good mood and increase it over time, it helps to set up boundaries. Everyone needs them although they are sometimes hard to establish and maintain. I feel you, because I also had hard times to keep my boundaries, especially if people manipulate you as toxic people tend to do. Everyones boundaries are different. It’s your personal choice what you want to let in. Be careful with your energy, because it suffers if you have weak boundaries. Alarm signs for losing energy around toxic people is permanent Müdigkeit.
4. Find your own way
When steps 1-3 are completed you are free to find your own path. Then you decide and not the others which is an important step towards your personal independence. It’s your way that matters towards the path to discover your dreams. Reaching your goals is just the next step because they are yours and not the goals of others. Finding out what we want is sometimes hard to find because we are used to trust in others and their opinions. Following is easier than leading but it’s always worth to take the difficult path if it leads you to your dreams!
5. Surround yourself with positive vibes
Overall, for staying away from toxic people and living a positive happy life it is critical to surround yourself with good vibes. This can be a cool environment or people who are honest and support you. I love working in coffee houses and hanging out with energetic, like-minded people. Some places like college campuses or parks give back energy. Then my work is more energizing me than it takes energy. Decide what’s your energy spot and try to be there as often as you can. I know this is a bit difficult during the pandemic, but you can search for alternatives. Have online parties with your friends or watch supportive videos. Maybe it’s a good time to learn something new.
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